Leashes, Harnesses and Swings… OMG!
BDSM. Let's talk about it! Today we kick off our Straps, Harnesses, and Swings series, where we break down our sensory play products one by one. Let's start by talking about you, then we'll give you a general overview, and finally, we'll end with some fun facts about BDSM!
Who should try BDSM?
Seriously? Anyone! There's no gender, body type, role preference, mobility level, or factor that totally excludes you from experimenting. Plus, bondage and roleplay aren't all whips and chains (unless that's your thing!). There's tons of space and elements to make it a mutually satisfying experience, whether it's with just one or two toys or an entire sex room to play with.
Why try it?
Exploring your desires with your partner can create a space that forges an emotional connection through deeply satisfying sex and sexual acts. Fetish doesn't have to hurt, and even dominance and submission (D/s) is about mutual satisfaction! As Anton Fulmen explains in his book " The Heart of Domination: A Guide to Practicing Consensual Domination ," "we must take an active, positive interest in ensuring that the D/s we practice together meets our partner's needs."
Chances are, bringing BDSM into the bedroom will spice up your sex life, no matter what facet you explore. So the next question is: what do you choose for your next adventure?
It's time for a tour of your pleasure essentials!
Frequent Flier Door Swing
This is, without a doubt, the item that steals the show. This door swing is quick and easy to install and will literally add a special touch to your time together. No accessories or drilling required—just throw it over the door! On the swing, you'll be suspended from the floor so your partner can hold your hips and fully enjoy the action.
The additional straps on the top can be used as handholds to stabilize yourself in particularly daring positions, while the lower straps can be worn around your ankles. Sound customizable? It is! Enjoy taking your pleasure to the next level.
This is an erotic accessory we get a lot of questions about, so stay tuned. We'll share all the details in an upcoming blog post.
Bed, Bondage & Beyond
You're in for a treat with this new under-bed restraint system. The four handcuff straps are connected to an adjustable center strap, so it fits mattresses of all sizes! The padded handcuffs are also adjustable for wrists and ankles of any size.
Its advantage? It stores easily under the bed for discreet storage. Plus, you can place the straps on the sides or at the head and foot of the bed to create completely different positions and play styles.
Onyx Blindfold feat. Tickle & Whip
I feel like this combination is obvious, but it's not. It's easy to think, "Oh, a blindfold, how exciting!" but then wonder how to make it more exciting. The key is connecting with your senses, and that's where our double-ended whip comes in. Tassels on one end and feathers on the other create different (and equally exciting!) sensations once you're blindfolded and your senses are heightened. It's perfect for setting the mood for erotic play.
Sexy Spreader
It's a bestseller for a reason! The padded center sits behind the neck, while the cuffs surround the ankles and help hold them in. In case it wasn't obvious, this helps keep your legs spread during missionary position. When we publish our next featured article, get ready to discover some secret uses you won't want to miss.
Onyx Nipple Clamps
The most glamorous part of the collection is this! Each clamp adjusts to the ideal pressure level (everyone has their own taste!). They're connected by a chain of sparkling rhinestones and pear-shaped gems that caress the skin between your breasts. Not sure how the clamps work or if they're right for you? There's only one way to find out.
Onyx Handcuffs
Here's to everyone's favorite! Our silicone handcuffs are the best way to give in or take control during sex. The removable lobster claw clasp allows you and your partner to change things up on the fly for sensual surprises. Expect basics, scene ideas, and more when we talk about this!
Curious? Great! As we mentioned, this is just the beginning of our series. Every two weeks, we'll give you another dose of bite with a review of one of the aforementioned bondage products.
And if you're wondering if getting into all this pushes your limits or signals something's wrong with you, it's not true. People have always been willing to be more adventurous. Studies dating back to 1953 confirm that people had erotic responses to being bitten! Talk about bites! There's no factual basis for that "kinky thing" aspect. BDSM is merely an interest and is not indicative of pathological or other issues related to "normal" sex , according to this study.
Stay tuned as we'll analyze each of these amazing products and offer instructions, positions, ideas, advice from our top Consultants, and much more. If you can't wait or just want a sneak peek, check out our bondage and role-play articles. And later, if you'd like to refresh your knowledge on the articles in this series, click on the straps, harnesses, and swings tag below or search for it in product-specific blogs.
We hope you're excited, because we are.
By Serena Clement