Talking about taboo: Anal play

There's only one way to dispel a taboo: talk about it. We know that talking about sex is still taboo in some communities. However, understanding our sexuality and sexual preferences remains an important aspect of our lives.

One topic that needs more discussion, especially in certain communities, is anal play (or anal stimulation). There are some misconceptions about who participates, why, and with whom. However, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, or marital status, people are interested, curious, and have questions.

What is anal play?

To begin with, there are various ways to achieve pleasure by stimulating the anal area without penetration. Rimming is oral stimulation of the anus ("butt eating"), and rimming, which includes the use of the mouth, tongue, and lips, can heighten and intensify pleasure. Penetrative activities can include the use of fingers, fists, sex toys , or the insertion of a penis into the anus to achieve sexual pleasure and enjoyment.

There are numerous beginner's guides online, depending on your interests. You should also talk to your partner about what you want and assess their interests. Sexual communication plays an important role in having pleasurable sexual experiences with your partner(s).

In addition to communication, here are some aspects to consider to improve comfort: proper hygiene, safety, arousal, and aftercare. Let's briefly discuss each of these.

Hygiene

Hygiene is essential. If you feel the need to defecate, do so before bathing or showering. Some people prefer to use an enema or an anal douche . This is entirely up to you. If you decide to use an anal douche, be sure to do so a few hours in advance. Your hands, mouth, and toys should be clean before the activity. However, DO NOT brush or floss your teeth, as this can cause small cuts in your mouth and have unwanted consequences, such as the spread of sexually transmitted infections or other infections.

Security

It's important to be aware of the risks associated with anal play and penetration. The anal area is very sensitive to injury and is therefore more vulnerable to tearing, pain, and bleeding. The use of condoms and dental dams is recommended as barrier methods to prevent and reduce the spread of infection. Another aspect of safety is awareness of your own body and its limits. Too much pressure or friction can cause discomfort and pain. However, this irritation is unlikely to cause the development of hemorrhoids. If you already have hemorrhoids, and especially if they are painful, it's best to refrain from anal activity until they have healed or are no longer causing discomfort.

Excitement

Since the goal is to have a pleasurable experience, it's important that you're aroused. You should warm up or prepare for any type of anal stimulation. You'll also want to be relaxed. Finding a comfortable position can help. If you plan on inserting something into your anus, you should have lubricant on hand, as the anus doesn't self-lubricate. I recommend having Booty Eaze , a soothing gel, or a silicone-based lubricant on hand. Anal training kits are another tool you can use to get used to the sensation. Remember, if you plan on inserting an object into your anus, it must have a plug or stopper.

Aftercare

After the activity is over, take some time to clean up. This includes cleaning the toys you used. Relaxation and comfortable positions are also a great idea. Aftercare is essential to the sexual experience and can increase intimacy. Take advantage of this time to share with your partner what you enjoyed and, perhaps, things that can improve future experiences.

If you've never tried anal play, it might be the perfect time to try something new. It's more common than most people think: 36% of women and 42% of men in the U.S. say they've tried anal sex at least once. Try these tips and see if you enjoy it!

Author: Ashley Townes